Why has experience helped some and not others?

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In recent hirings, I talked with several managers about experiences of candidates. We wanted to look for candidates with experiences that we needed. We put that in job description. Many resumes we received had 15 years of experiences in a particular field but those candidates either moved too often but stayed too short from organizations to organizations or did not grow much from their positions. They looked like having one year of experience 15 times. There were candidates with fewer years of experiences but they passed our strict tests with a high flag.

Why has experience helped some and not others?

Dr. John C. Maxwell said that we begin our lives as empty notebooks. Every day we have an opportunity to record new experiences on our pages. The problem is that not all people make the best use of their notebooks. Few who do make use of their notebooks often reread what they wrote and reflect on it. Reflection turns experience into insight. Experience teaches nothing, evaluated experience teaches everything. In other words, experience is automatic, insight is not.

Dr. John C. Maxwell taught about experiences:

  1. We experience more than we understand. In order to close the gap between understanding and experience, write it down and reflect on it daily.
  2. Our attitude toward unplanned and unpleasant experiences determine our growth.
  3. Lack of experience is costly.
  4. Experience is also costly. We can not gain experience without paying a price. Experience gives the test first and the lesson later.
    Mark Twain: I know a man who grabbed a cat by the tail and he learned 40 percent more about cats than the man who didnt.
  5. Not evaluating and learning from experience is more costly. It’s a terrible mistake to pay the price for experience and not receiving the lesson.
    Mark Twain: if a cat sits on a hot stove, that cat won’t sit on that hot stove again. In fact, that cat won’t sit on a cold stove either.
  6. Evaluated experience lifts a person above the crowd.

How do we apply this lesson? I have a habit of writing down what happened to me since high school. Shihan Arakaki (founder and grandmaster of Musokai Karate) taught me to write down both what happened as well as what I learned. Now Dr. Maxwell taught me to write down my experience, my thoughts, my learning, and really spend time to reflect on it. The entire process takes less than 15 minutes daily but it has been a life-changing habit. It will be for you too.

For more details, please read Leadership Gold by Dr. John C. Maxwell or join one of my mastermind groups.

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Hiring 101 – the best way to grow a business

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The legend has it that the advertising agency empire-builder David Ogilvy established a tradition of welcoming new executives with a gift of five wooden dolls, each smaller than the other, one inside the other.

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When the recipient finally gets to the fifth little doll, the smallest doll, and opens it, he finds this message: if each of us hires people who are smaller than we are, we shall become a company of dwarfs, but if each of us hires people who are bigger than we are, we shall become a company of giants.

If you surround yourself and spend time with people who are “smaller” than you, you will stay as you are.

A leader’s potential is determined by those closest to him. – John Maxwell

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Why your employee behaves like an asshole? and you don’t know

First of all, you won’t like the answer. So if it pissed you off, stop reading. Go cry instead. If you have the gut to read, let’s continue.

The short answer is because you allow it.

Here’s the long answer.

First let’s give this employee a name: Messi.

Messi is very good with what he does. In some way, Messi is brilliant. Otherwise, you probably don’t care about him in the first place. Or you might have fired him when people complained to you that Messi is an asshole.

Messi only has one tiny problem: he doesn’t work well with people.

He behaves like a child. He screams, yells, uses manipulative words to get what he wants from others.

When his screaming, yelling, kicking doesn’t work, he uses his boss to get what he wants.

A typical way of using the boss is “my boss said so, so let’s do it or he will be mad.”

Surprisingly, this tactics of using the boss works. Messi got what he wanted all the time. Why? because no one ever went to Messi’s boss to ask for clarification.

And if anyone does, Messi’s boss would confirm whatever Messi said earlier and tell the brave person to do what Messi said. The behavior is reinforced time after time and people learned to listen to Messi.

To the boss, Messi is the most beloved and charming employee. In fact, the boss does everything to keep Messi happy.

If anyone ever mentions something different about Messi, the boss would shrug his shoulder off and told the poor guy that Messi deserves the love.

Messi would continue his tactics of screaming, yelling, manipulating, and using the boss when he can’t succeed with his own manipulation.

The word to describe Messi is the bully at work.

And when the bully gets what he wants, he will keep going.

You will only know about this type of behaviors when Messi starts to disappoint you.

Or when you start hearing complaints after complaints about Messi.

Or when you start finding out why things don’t work.

You might wonder how you can help Messi before it’s too late.

Yes, that’s a smart thought. If you let Messi continue, it’s not only harmful to Messi (he also needs to grow up), but also in the long run it doesn’t help you. People will stay away from you.

So how can you help Messi? how can you help yourself?

The following describes a simple method that you can start using. More complex and powerful methods are available upon requests.

  1. Gather 360 feedbacks about Messi. Ask people to give candid feedbacks.
  2. Observe Messi and become aware yourself with how Messi behaves toward others
  3. Meet with Messi and have a candid conversation with him. Messi will listen to you as usual.
  4. Give Messi feedbacks
  5. Come up with a plan of actions with Messi to change his behavior
  6. Work on yourself and become aware why you allowed the type of Messi’s behavior in the first place.

Keep in mind that team work makes dream work. To succeed, you need a team.

Hiring 101 – the best way to grow a business

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The legend has it that the advertising agency empire-builder David Ogilvy established a tradition of welcoming new executives with a gift of five wooden dolls, each smaller than the other, one inside the other.

matrioshka-maidan

When the recipient finally gets to the fifth little doll, the smallest doll, and opens it, he finds this message: if each of us hires people who are smaller than we are, we shall become a company of dwarfs, but if each of us hires people who are bigger than we are, we shall become a company of giants.

If you surround yourself and spend time with people who are “smaller” than you, you will stay as you are.

A leader’s potential is determined by those closest to him. – John Maxwell

P/S: Inquiry about coaching and business consulting is welcome.

It’s never been too late.

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Have you ever wanted to do something extraordinarily such as running a marathon, taking a karate class, participating in ironman triathlon, or becoming an entrepreneur … but you stopped yourself immediately: “It’s too late. I am too old.”

If you have, you are not alone. In my life coaching journey, I have met many who after discovering their dream immediately stopped themselves with this though: “I am too old.” They wished they had met me 10 years ago, 20 years ago, or even 30 years ago. I wished so too, though I would have no idea what I would have said to them if they met me 10,20, 30 years ago. Shifting their mindset from “it’s too late” to “I must start now or it will be too late” was a miracle to them.

The following examples helped many and my sincere hope is that you will see for yourself: Start now, it’s never too late.

Julia Child did not learn to cook until she was 40. Yet, she became one of the most famous chefs in history.

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Susan Boyle came to Britain’s Got Talent when she was 48. She was an instant hit with her song: “I dreamed a dream.” She amassed a net worth of over $37 million since then.

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Ray Kroc met McDonald brothers when he was 52. He convinced McDonald brothers to let him help with the franchises. Later on, Ray convinced McDonald brothers to sell their business to him. Ray went on to become a billionaire. McDonald is now the most successful burger franchise in the world.

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Nola Ochs graduated from Fort Hays State University in Kansas in 2007 when she was 95. In 2010, Nola received her master degree. She started writing her first book when she turned 100.

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Helen Klein was 55 when she started training with her husband for his marathon. She smoked for 25 years and had never run a mile in her life before that. She completed more than 60 marathons and 140 ultramarathons. Helen ran five 100-mile mountain trail events within 16 weeks when she was 66.  She ran 145 miles across Sahara when she was 72. Yet, she only started when she was 55.

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Recently I was inspired by T.Boone Pickens who was a very successful oil man. He was forced out of his company at 68. At the same time, he went through a nasty divorce. Never a believer in stopping or retiring, Pickens picked himself up again to form a start-up with 5 employees trading futures. He studied for the commodity trading license and took the test 6 times before passing. From a small start-up, Pickens turned it into a power house and made himself a multi-billionaire. He became more successful after 68 than ever before.

It’s never too late to do anything.

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